Answer from: Karenna Wood
It is so easy to obsess over getting pregnant during infertility. It becomes the most all-consuming thing. In terms of on the computer, doctor Google and answering all these questions, being in chat rooms and forums, the best way to manage that is to set yourself some boundaries particularly with that online behavior. What I’ve found over the years is that managing your social media time or presence can be very important, you can get so much so many benefits from social media but it can also be a real source of stress and pain as you’re going through infertility. Whether it’s time to take a pause from that, or whether to mute or block certain people that may be causing some pain, you have the controls over that, so I encourage you to control that.
In terms of the online behavior, when you’re researching maybe again set some limits, say “I’m going to look this up for 30 minutes and then I’m going to step away” and actually set a timer on your phone or something in your house to remind you to move on after that because you can often get down so many online rabbit holes it becomes very very difficult to get off the computer when you’re looking through those.
Outside of the technology side of things, in your own head, it’s very hard to get away from the thoughts around it so active distraction is very key, relaxation practices such as meditation, or breathing, or yoga. They can be very important. Social distraction, getting out, interacting with others, sometimes it can be hard to push yourself to do that but often very beneficial.
Lastly, another way to get out of your own head in a way is through altruism. Often giving back to others can give so much to ourselves, so perhaps looking into some volunteering is a way. Perhaps it’s a time maybe where you might want to look at learning a new skill or re-engaging with an activity that you’ve done before such as a creative activity like music or art. I think remembering and getting back to you and what brings you joy is such an important part of weathering through infertility in a better way.
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